Wednesday, May 1, 2013

May Goals & IWSG - I can't write kissing scenes

Whew - it is May and the A-Z Blogging Challenge is over!  Though I admit it doesn't feel like May in Iowa.  The temperature high for Friday is 46 with a low of 36.  BRR!  Hopefully the weather will stop being stupid soon and we can enjoy the coming summer.  I'm doing this as a double post, so scroll down if you are here for the IWSG!

Here are my goals from April:
* Complete the April A-Z Blogging Challenge

* Write to 30,000 words on my Camp NaNo novel, "Breathless"
I made it to 30,050 words!  DONE! 

* Run/walk my first 5K on April 20th
FAIL.  I didn't walk or run it.  I gave up due to knee strain and it only got worse. Turns out I have runner's knee.  Once it heals, I will start some running again.  Even if I don't run a 5K, exercise is really important. :)

I finished 2 out of 3 goals, definitely an accomplishment!  Okay, doing the A-Z Challenge and Camp Nano at the same time was crazy and I'm super excited it is over!  :)  I wouldn't do it again, but I love my manuscript and it's nice to have the idea done. Now to revise it!  I did so much last month!  I critiqued two of my critique partner's novels in addition to everything.  I didn't think I'd even have time for them until May.

Goals for May:
* Complete first round of revisions for "Breathless"
Revise, adding scenes and fixing timeline errors.  Send to critique partners. :)

* Finish critiquing CP's book - "Black and White"

* Read "The Oracle and the Vampire - The 13th Floor #5 and #6" by Christine Rains

* Relax

I'm really looking forward to the last of my goals. :)  I'm definitely ready to relax and maybe take a day off of work to just relax and have a nice long weekend where I'm not stressed and busy.

How did you goals for April go?  Did you complete the A-Z Challenge?  Did you write a novel or begin one for Camp Nano?  Congrats to everyone who participated in either or both!


Anyway, it's time for another installation of The Insecure Writer's Support Group, which posts on the first Wednesday of every month and is run by our Ninja Captain Alex Cavanaugh.  Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!  Seriously, I love this support group!

I'd like to talk about the dreaded fear I have.  I'm insecure about my.... KISSING SCENES.  Yep, I'm not good at kissing scenes.  I don't have a lot of experience with kissing and I'm not really one to make-out with strangers, so there goes my practicing.   I like writing them, but at the same time I write them and laugh first, then roll my eyes, delete it once, rewrite the scene and face-palm. 

If anyone has an advice, I'd love it. :)  As a side note, I don't write smutty scenes, just some romantic passionate kissing scenes that talk way too much about tasting like oranges and chocolate frosting.  Oops?  Help?

How do you write a kiss scene?  Do you base it on personal experience or are you just that awesome when it comes with writing make-out scenes?


  1. Hi Krista, wow you were busy!! Congrats on hitting your goals, I really need to do some for this month!
    I'm not sure if I'm any good at the kissing scenes but what I do is imagine a gorgeous looking actor who has been in romantic movies (Ryan Gosling perhaps) and just imagine a scene with him and me. Not raunchy, just a moment that catches your breath. Maybe 'melting chocolate' as opposed to 'chocolate frosting'? I actually like writing those scenes but cringe at the thought of people reading them!

  2. I haven't written a kissing scene yet, and I imagine I'd be terrible at it. Going to have to eventually, though!

  3. This blog about "jelly beans" and "chocolate" is for me! But...uh...kissing? Let me check my list...hmm, no appointment is set up for any leading ladies to kiss yours truly here, heh heh.

    You sound like an accomplished writer, and I betcha that you'll get those scenes down just right. :)

  4. I haven't written a kissing scene yet, but I'd have to think it would, maybe, be as simple as just imagining your ideal kissing scenario and writing it down?

    I'm sure I'm oversimplifying it...a lot..., but that's how I'd start, at least.

    Good luck! :)

  5. I'm not good at kissing scenes either. I keep envisioning my mother reading them, or my 9 yo. Plus, I write more on the comedy side of things, so I try to make it funny. I have one CP that writes them crazy well. I need to pick her brain.
    Nice work on your April goals-sorry about the runners knee, I've been there, done that as well. I made 2 goals-A to Z challenge and finish a rewrite. Unfortunately I only finished A to Z, the rewrite is still waiting for me to get in gear. I'm almost 50 K in, so at least I'm getting closer:)

  6. Even when I base those scenes on personal experience, I don't think that's my forte. My solution is to keep it simple.

    Good luck for your May goals!

    Lynda R Young
    IWSG co-host

  7. Congratulations on completing 2 of 3 goals! :) Hope your knee is better soon.

    I've written very few kissing scenes and usually I cut out the physical part because I'm scared of getting it wrong. It's a hard thing to get right. :P

  8. Krista!!! You've come to the right person. I didn't do a kissing scene until my second book. (Heck, I didn't even have a female character until my second book.) Just shoot all the passion at that one moment but don't linger. Yeah, skip the physical stuff. It's all about the emotions.

  9. Missed you in the Challenge, but catching up now. The scenes I've written with kisses come from memory with a creative spin added.

  10. Yay for meeting so many goals! You must be exhausted after April. I hope you've recovered somewhat.

    Kissing scenes used to be SO HARD for me. But ten years of practicing has made it easier. I think that's just the thing--practice, practice, more, I read and edit a lot of kissing scenes. Exposure helps too. ;) Actually, I used to be pretty bad at writing characters connecting physically in a lot of ways--even just simple ways like the touch of a hand or something. When I wrote Rising 1, one of my beta readers basically told me, "Laura, I think it's great, but it felt like something was missing..." And when she pinpointed it, it was that she didn't feel as connected to the characters because of the lack of physicality. Even if it was between a grown-up and a child, or a married couple, or whatever. And it's because that sort of thing--describing physical contact--wasn't my strong point and I hadn't though much about it. I was much more about the emotional side of things--but the thing is, not all characters are going to be about the emotional side of things. So...that pushed me out of my comfort zone a bit, and I wrote and rewrote and rewrote Rising 1 until it is what it is. Then when it came to Rising 2, it was a lot more involved and I had to go through more comfort zones--but a lot of it was easier. Now, I'm writing a YA fantasy, and the MC is a very touchy-feely person, and it's sooo easy to write.

    So, all this to say: Practice makes better. And better. And better. Maybe you should just practice writing lots of kissing scenes in different ways. Or even practice writing simpler touching scenes--you know, like hand-holding or a touch on the cheek or a kiss on the forehead--and see how many different ways you can write it, or what words you might use to describe various touches.

  11. Hi Krista! I think I'm a first-time visitor here! :) It's nice to meet you! Sorry about your knee - just keep at it. I'm trying to exercise more myself and squeeze in a run or two every week. It's so hard to make time, though. Those are some great goals, especially the taking time off to relax! I took April off and it helped me clear my mind and get back to writing.