Wednesday, January 8, 2014

IWSG - Will I make it this year?

It's time for the first installation of The Insecure Writer's Support Group, which posts on the first Wednesday of every month and is run by our Ninja Captain Alex Cavanaugh. (We are posting on the second Wednesday this month because of the holiday.) This is a place where writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds.

A new year is upon us. A new year of writing, editing, revising, querying, rejections, joys, and failures. It makes me feel really insecure about my writing. For one, I am currently working two jobs and still having trouble, so I'm searching for a 3rd job, but I already have very little time for writing. When I do get a little time, I'm usually too tired or just want to watch another episode of Law and Order to relax. I'm finding it hard to write when I just don't want to write.

Two, when I do find a little time to write, I feel like it is pointless. I've been writing for a long time and I feel like I'm no closer to having a book published. I can't help but think if I won't be published this year either. My dream feels stagnant. I don't know how to keep moving, when I feel like I'm stuck in a swamp with everyone else who wants to write. We are shouting to get our books read, but no one hears us. The harder we try, the more we feel like failures.

I feel like Mr. Potato-Head...
Will it ever happen for me? Will I ever be published? I need some encouragement. I don't want to give up on writing or my dream, but I'm feeling down in the dumps and a bit like a failure.


  1. If you don't want to give up, then don't. I know that's easy to say when you're feeling down, but it's really that simple. I can't imagine how hard it is to work two jobs and try to write. I have enough trouble with my one job! But you will figure it out, and you'll find the time if you really want to.

    You're not failing, you're busy. Keep plugging away, and think about all of your friends who felt the exact same way before suddenly having a big hit with a self-published book, or landed an agent or a book deal. Focus on the positives! :D

  2. I don't think its because you necessarily don't want to write but rather that you feel unmotivated to do so because currently you feel the rewards aren't there, or seem to be nailed to a target that with every step you take also takes one. I know I feel that and I have only been writing a year.
    The fact that you have two jobs, are looking for a third and writing is still foremost in your mind shows that you are most definitely a writer, and I don't doubt that you will find the success that you want.
    Things that I do to keep me going when I have bouts of doubts; reading peoples blogs, like this one, not only have I discovered that for the majority of people it takes time and dedication, but also that I am not alone in having these feelings, I browse pinterest for funny and inspirational writerly quotes and I recently read an article about successful authors and their rejections, and some of them must have felt on occasion that they were flogging a dead horse with their novel, but they made it eventually by trying just once more. Easier said than done, right?
    Sometimes I will read old stories to see if there is any improvement over time, to make sure I am constantly striving for something better than before.
    Anyway, I am blathering on here, have you considered contributing to an anthology? That is one way to get published alongside other indie writers.

  3. Keep writing, Krista. Even a page or a paragraph or five moments of writing is getting you that much closer to your goal. Remember this quote (it's one of my favorites):

    "Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway." ~Earl Nightingale

    The time will pass whether you write or not. So write. No matter how little it may seem. Every little bit means you're improving and moving forward.

    Good luck with your jobs, too. Things are always hard before it gets easier.

    Happy reading and writing! from Laura Marcella @ Wavy Lines

  4. One thing that holds true in this business is that it pretty much takes forever. The ones who don't give up are the ones who make it. Keep on working and learning and you WILL get there. I believe that whole heartedly. :)

  5. If you keep trying, and reaching for your dream, you will get there eventually. I know what you mean about not wanting to write after being at work, and trying to find the time, but don't give up hope. Try to write when you don't feel like it, even if it's only a couple of hundred words. Remember, the only way to fail is to give up.

  6. That's what I always ask myself. If you ever find an answer, be sure to let me know.

  7. I'm so sorry you are stuggling right now (and not just in finding time to write). None of my stories are published yet either. I have lofty hopes, but even if it never happens for me I will keep writing. It is part of who I am. Not doing it would be like cutting off an arm (well, maybe not an arm...maybe shaving my head). Just keep moving forward (I think that is from Walt Disney). Good luck!
    Leanne ( )

  8. It happens so many different ways for writers. If your goal is publication, you are the only one who can make that happen. It doesn't mean it's every easy, but no one will do the not-easy stuff for you and it might take a good long time to get there. I've been networking with some pretty fantastic writers and everyone's journey is different.

    I signed with an agent almost a year ago. That process went quite quickly for me. I'd only been writing fiction seriously for two years and mostly had no idea what I was doing. So I landed an agent, and it's been a year with no book deal. It's a slow process. There are no guarantees my book will get picked up just because my agent loves it. No guarantees on the next book. I just keep writing, making each book better, and shooting toward the goals I have.

    It's a long game. Thankfully all us writers have each other for hugs.

  9. If it's what you really want, then it WILL happen for you. You WILL be published one day!

    I know it's hard to stay motivated sometimes. I'm feeling really unmotivated at the moment! What helps me is listening to music that fits perfectly with my story and browsing through images that I could use for a book cover or that inspire certain scenes in my book.

    Getting published is a lot of work. You know this. But it WILL BE WORTH IT even if it takes you years to get there!

    *virtual hugs*